Confidence – answer to your questions Pa May 12, 2009
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Other day over the lunch Pa asked me a difficult question. Pa is my roomie and like a young brother (in fact he respects me like elder brother). He asked me how I am so confident? I think he wanted to know how do one stay confident? Pa’s real concern is definitely for his career.
I did continue to ponder over it for a while. I did told him something which was irrelevant. I said it because I had to say something. Honestly no good answer really clicked. I started having doubt on self and Pa’s confidence that I am confident. 
I fumbled for a while, shuffled pages of dictionary to find that meaning and answer.
I did get my answer finally. I am not sure if this is the answer Pa is looking for. To me confidence is to know what I (you) know, what I can do, what I can achieve. It is also important to know what I do not know, what I cannot do, and what I cannot achieve. Basically self-awareness is the key here.
Being confident also means being positive. Having belief in yourself, your existence and having sense of purpose. It is very important to feel good about yourself. I would recommend a dose of self-indulgence. Being content from within and enjoying every moment of your life.
Keeping smile on doomsday is confidence to me. Fighting your fear is confidence for me. Saying no to things you do not want to do makes you a confident person. In a way I say it is that power within yourself which allows you to chart path of your life. Walking with your head high. From where this power comes? It comes from knowledge, it comes with skills, earn it with hard work, from your desire to strive, from tolerance and your ability to sacrifice.
We need to make choices in life. We need to set the priorities for every day, week, month, and moment of life. This priorities will change, shift, new will appear and old will disappear from your list. You also need to make list of your values. It includes your faith, your family, your friends, your dreams and desires, money, career/work, fun, and all such things which you think are important for your survival. These two list must work in tandem. I would say in most of part of your life your values will not change. Not even the order of them. But priorities will keep realigning itself with change in time.
I am talking about this sacrifice here. Sacrificing item of low priority for one at the top. How you balance yourself among these two tangents of life will give you what you are looking for in life. Confidence!
